Another Sad Loss To Bullying, One Solution That May Help

Hi there guys,

Yesterday I was sitting at my computer crying, having read of a 7 year old boy who had taken his own life.

As reported in the Detroit Free Press:

Peering through the keyhole of a locked door in her family’s home near Detroit’s New Center, a 14-year-old girl saw the unthinkable: her 7-year-old brother hanging from a bunk bed with a belt around his neck, a police report says.

The girl alerted her mother and called 911. The mother and a neighbor forced their way into the room, took the boy down, and called 911, too.

The 7-year-old, whom the Free Press is not naming, had been depressed about being bullied by other kids at school and in his neighborhood, and about his parents’ recent separation, the boy’s mother told police, according to the report.

“It’s just a tragedy on so many levels,” Detroit Police Chief Ralph Godbee Jr. said Thursday, calling the situation “unfathomable.”


For me the pain is deep. For a child so young to feel so lost is tragic, and for this loss to be secondary to bullying cuts me to the core. I know this situation well.

When I was 10 I was the victim of bullying at my primary school. Every day I was beaten by the same vile male. Every day I did what I could to avoid school. Pain as strong as this can be hard for a child to comprehend. I am lucky I never got the point of contemplating death. At the time I wished I was dead, but thankfully I still had a degree of hope that protected me. Thankfully I had parents that were there, they cared and listened once I had broken through the fear of telling them of my shame.

I’m not saying that this boy’s mother was not caring and did not listen, as reported she clearly did. Sadly for this child his fear was so high that even that was not enough to give him hope that he would be able to walk away from his sadness.

Today I wanted to talk about one very simple idea that I was taught as a volunteer at the charity Camp Quality. It’s a very simple process that can have amazing results. This process is called, “The Worst & The Best”.

The Worst & The Best works this way: When you are with a friend, or even with a small group of friends you each take a turn you share your best and worst moment of the day.

It’s important that there is no judegement, no interruption and you are focused on the person who is sharing. It was their day, let them tell it how it was for them.

For the person sharing you start by explaining the worst part of your day then you can share the best part of your day. This way each person gets to finish on the reminder of the wonderful highlight of their day.

An example might be, as it was for me yesterday:

“Today the worst for me was that I was feeling tired and this made me a bit snappy. I hate it when I am snappy. I don’t like the feeling and I hate being negative to people around me that I care about.

The best part of my day was that I had an amazing night with my partner, watching TV and enjoying being daggy old me in my shorts and t-shirt, laughing along to Tosh.0”.

To be honest some people feel a bit weird when they first do this. When done on a regular basis the process can really help create an open relationship, allowing space for sharing concerns, love, care and trust.

This process can be for everyone. Kids, adults, close mates. Give it a try today. It’s these conversations that can not only be life changing but more importantly, life saving.

If you have kids, today might be a great day to have this first conversation. You may be surprised what you learn. I hope that this might create a generation of kids that learn to never fear sharing openly with people they feel safe with.

Yours in good health.

Dr George

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